The Holidays are Coming

by Jonathan Hart

If this phrase fills you with a sense of foreboding, you're not alone. For many, the holidays can be a time of guilt and frustration in which the traditional family gatherings are fraught with conflict, tension, and heartache. Family gatherings can be confusing. "Why is this so hard?  Is it supposed to be like this?  That's just how they are, I need to get over it... but I can't!"

Families are rarely perfect.  We often feel pressures and expectations when we are among our closest relatives that we don't feel anywhere else or at any other time of year.  I've heard more than one person complain, "Mom (or Dad) treats me like I'm still twelve years old!  They don't seem to understand that I'm an adult now," or "I just go along with it!  I can't seem to stand my ground with them."

While these pressures and conflicts are not unusual, they are painful and difficult to handle for many people.  We feel the power of these relationships and expectations deeply, and we aren't sure what we have the right to challenge and what we don't.  All too often we avoid confronting what is painful because the consequences are just too great.  "I can't say that to my Mother!  It would crush her! It would ruin the whole trip!"

If you are among those who need help sorting out the expectations and learning how to relate in a healthier way when you're at home, I'd encourage you to sign up for the "Surviving the Holidays" seminar that we are presenting at Rooftop Church in Affton on Friday, November 9th from 5:30-9:00 PM.  We will discuss how relationships are designed to function, how they get off track, and how to change the pattern in a healthy direction.  For details on how to register for this event CLICK HERE!